::: STORY : THE FLOWER & STONE ::

“You have hardened”, said the flower, bending her petals downward toward the half stone at her roots. “These rains should have softened you, made you more fertile and receptive to the seeds of the fields; but no. You have accumulated minerals and have become more silent and full of calcium. Why do you stay here? Why do you resist the brook that gives us water?”The stone said nothing.

A number of clouds passed by, the sun set and the night arrived with an immense bronze-coloured freckled moon with acne scars upon her worn face and in this manner reflected down upon the silent stone which still had not fallen asleep. The flower, by now, had tucked-in her petals and slept profoundly, and at this time the stone began to answer:

“I stay here because your roots have made me yours. I stay here because it is no longer about my feeling the earth rather because I have become part of that which functions as a support of your stem which resists the wind and the rain. Everything changes, my sweet flower”, said the stone, “but I stay here because love is that microscopic space between your feet and my salted skin. You would only be able to feel it if destiny were ever to separate the two of us.”

The moon followed the fade of the stars. Dawn gave a yawn as the sun began to burn its horizon on the lower lip of the mouth of a new day. The flower awoke and extended her beautiful petals. “Good morning”, she said, “I dreamt that you were singing to me. How foolish of me, don’t you think?”

The stone said nothing.

COURTESY : ZENACTIVE

11 Ways to Become the Person You Love

You are powerful when you believe in yourself – when you know that you are capable of anything you put your mind to.  You are beautiful when your strength and determination shines as you follow your own path – when you aren’t disheveled by the obstacles along the way.  You are unstoppable when you let your mistakes educate you, as your confidence builds from experiences – when you know you can fall down, pick yourself up, and move forward.

Here are 11 ways to become the person you love.

1. Stop judging, and appreciate the beauty within you.
2. Treat yourself the way you want others to treat you.
3. Care less about who you are to others.
4. Know your worth.
5. Don’t rush intimate relationships.
6. Let go of those who aren’t really there.
7. Forgive yourself and others.
8. Focus on the positive.
9. Believe in the person you are capable of being.
10. Work on goals you believe in.
11. Keep looking and moving straight forward.

In the end, loving yourself is about enjoying your life, trusting your own feelings, taking chances, losing and finding happiness, cherishing the memories, and learning from the past.  Sometimes you have to stop worrying, wondering, and doubting.  Have faith that things will work out, maybe not exactly how you planned, but just how it’s meant to be.

GOD BLESS YOU ALL.
Vijay 
 

Courtesy @ mark & angel

Just Love ..., Nothing Else

My Dear Souls ;

So just Love and Love ; Nothing Else...!
It is only the love which will make this world a better place to live ..
Love you all guys !!! 

vijay 

::::LIFE LESSONS :: ::12 Truths to Tell Yourself After a Mistake or Failure ::

""""Failure is a prerequisite for great success.  If you want to succeed faster, double your rate of failure."""""

Have you ever seen a child learn to ride a bike, or a toddler learn to walk?  They stumble and fall numerous times before getting it right.  Mistakes are learning opportunities.  It takes failure after failure to create success.  Believe you can and you are halfway there.  And never regret anything, because every little detail of your life, including your mistakes, is what made you who you are today.  Here are twelve reminders to keep you motivated after a mistake or failure:

1.    It’s okay.  You will be okay.
2.    There is no success without failure.
3.    Positive thinking creates positive results.
4.    Success is always closer than it seems.
5.    You are not your mistakes.
6.    Life’s best lessons are learned at unexpected times.
7.    Mistakes are rarely as bad as they seem.
8.    Not getting what you want can be a blessing.
9.    You have the capacity to create your own happiness.
10.    Mistakes are simply a form of practice.
11.     You are making progress.
12.     Life goes on.

Learn from your mistakes, but don’t regret.  Life is change, things go wrong, and life goes on.

COURTESY @MARK & ANGEL

:::::STORY : THE DONKEY ::::

An old man and a young man are traveling with a donkey. They have reached near a town; they both are walking with their donkey. School children passed them and they giggled and they laughed and they said, “Look at these fools: they have a healthy donkey with them and they are walking. At least the old man can sit on the donkey.”Listening to those children the old man and the young man decided, What to do? – because people are laughing and soon we will be entering the town, so it is better to follow what they are saying. So the old man sat on the donkey and the young man followed.

Then they came near another group of people and they looked at them and said, “Look! – the old man is sitting on the donkey and the poor boy is walking. This is absurd! The old man can walk, but the boy should be allowed to sit on the donkey.” So they changed: the old man started walking and the boy was allowed to sit.

Then another group came and said, “Look at these fools. And this boy seems to be too arrogant. Maybe the old man is his father or his teacher and he is walking, and he is sitting on the donkey – this is against all rules!”

So what to do? They both decided that now there is only one possibility: that they both should sit on the donkey; so they both sat on the donkey. Then other groups came and they said, “Look at these people, so violent! The poor donkey is almost dying – two persons on one donkey. It would have been better if they carried the donkey on their shoulders.”

So they again discussed, and then there was the river and the bridge. They had now almost reached the boundary of the town, so they thought: It is better to behave as people think in this town, otherwise they will think we are fools. So they found a bamboo; on their shoulders they put the bamboo and hung the donkey by his legs, tied it in the bamboo and carried him.

The donkey tried to rebel, as donkeys are they cannot be forced very easily. He tried to escape because he is not a believer in society and what others are saying. But the two men were too much and they forced him, so the donkey had to yield. Just on the bridge in the middle a crowd passed and they all gathered and they said,

“Look, these fools! We have never seen such idiots – a donkey is to ride upon, not to carry on your shoulders. Have you gone mad?”

Listening to them – and a great crowd gathered – the donkey became restless, so restless that he jumped and fell from the bridge down into the river – and died. Both men came down – the donkey was dead. They sat by its side and the old man said,

“Now listen… just like this donkey you will be dead if you listen to people too much. Don’t bother what others say, because there are millions of others and they have their own minds and everybody will say something; everybody has his opinions and if you listen to opinions this will be your end.”

Don’t listen to anybody, you remain yourself. Just bypass them, be indifferent. If you go on listening to everybody, everybody will be prodding you to this way or that. You will never be able to reach your innermost center.”

courtesy @zenactive

:::::STORY : THE DONKEY ::::

An old man and a young man are traveling with a donkey. They have reached near a town; they both are walking with their donkey. School children passed them and they giggled and they laughed and they said, “Look at these fools: they have a healthy donkey with them and they are walking. At least the old man can sit on the donkey.”Listening to those children the old man and the young man decided, What to do? – because people are laughing and soon we will be entering the town, so it is better to follow what they are saying. So the old man sat on the donkey and the young man followed.

Then they came near another group of people and they looked at them and said, “Look! – the old man is sitting on the donkey and the poor boy is walking. This is absurd! The old man can walk, but the boy should be allowed to sit on the donkey.” So they changed: the old man started walking and the boy was allowed to sit.

Then another group came and said, “Look at these fools. And this boy seems to be too arrogant. Maybe the old man is his father or his teacher and he is walking, and he is sitting on the donkey – this is against all rules!”

So what to do? They both decided that now there is only one possibility: that they both should sit on the donkey; so they both sat on the donkey. Then other groups came and they said, “Look at these people, so violent! The poor donkey is almost dying – two persons on one donkey. It would have been better if they carried the donkey on their shoulders.”

So they again discussed, and then there was the river and the bridge. They had now almost reached the boundary of the town, so they thought: It is better to behave as people think in this town, otherwise they will think we are fools. So they found a bamboo; on their shoulders they put the bamboo and hung the donkey by his legs, tied it in the bamboo and carried him.

The donkey tried to rebel, as donkeys are they cannot be forced very easily. He tried to escape because he is not a believer in society and what others are saying. But the two men were too much and they forced him, so the donkey had to yield. Just on the bridge in the middle a crowd passed and they all gathered and they said,

“Look, these fools! We have never seen such idiots – a donkey is to ride upon, not to carry on your shoulders. Have you gone mad?”

Listening to them – and a great crowd gathered – the donkey became restless, so restless that he jumped and fell from the bridge down into the river – and died. Both men came down – the donkey was dead. They sat by its side and the old man said,

“Now listen… just like this donkey you will be dead if you listen to people too much. Don’t bother what others say, because there are millions of others and they have their own minds and everybody will say something; everybody has his opinions and if you listen to opinions this will be your end.”

Don’t listen to anybody, you remain yourself. Just bypass them, be indifferent. If you go on listening to everybody, everybody will be prodding you to this way or that. You will never be able to reach your innermost center.”

courtesy @zenactive

“ THE PAST IS DEAD FOR ME AND I AM DEAD FOR THE PAST “

My dear souls;
Very good and sweet morning to all of you . 

Today I am giving you a mantra , which you have to repeat to yourself, whenever you get time and make affirmations to yourself.

The mantra is very simple : “THE PAST IS DEAD FOR ME AND I AM DEAD FOR THE PAST"

Please understand and appreciate that we all have bad pasts and we can do nothing to change whatever has happened.

So the KEY is “ MOVE ON“  !!!!!

I am sure you all will start talking to yourself with this statement as first statement of your daily life. 

Pranaam
Much love and light and off-course lot of Hugs !!
Vijay

STORY : THE OWL

Once there was an owl who sat on a limb and was listening to a song bird that was singing a lovely tune. When a wood pecker flew in and landed on this same tree and began banging its beak against the bark of the tree. “Rap, Rap, Rap.”

“Excuse me,” started the little song bird, “But, I am trying to sing here!”

“So,” replied the woodpecker and continued to pound its beak against the tree’s bark, making a loud and annoying sound. “Tap, Tap, Tap.”

The owl thought about this a moment and suggested, “Mr. Woodpecker… perhaps you could play percussion for the little song bird?”

“Nope, I am to busy,” The woodpecker replied.

“Busy doing what? Making noise?” The little song bird huffed.

“Tap, rap, tap, tap, tap,” the woodpecker continued. “I am looking for my dinner.” The woodpecker spat.

“There are bugs all over the forest floor,” the owl stated, “Why must you go about it the hard way?”

“It is what I do,” the woodpecker said. “Rap, rap, rap.” The little song bird got annoyed and flew away, while the owl tucked its head under its wing and ignored the woodpecker. Eventually the woodpecker moved on to another tree and eventually moved on to another part of the forest.

The little song bird returned and began complaining about the ways of the woodpecker, “That hard headed pecker-wood, ruined my whole day!”

“Why is that?” asked the owl. “You are free to go back to singing your lovely song.”
“I’m too upset to sing now. That woodpecker will probably come back and do the same thing again.” The little song bird huffed.

“Do not allow others to change you. You are a song bird, sing. Do not waste your time complaining about what others do. You have to accept them the way they are or you will spend a lot of time being unhappy because they do not see the world the same way as you.” With this the song bird thought about what the owl had said and then began to sing again.

A little while later the little song bird asked the owl,”And what is it you do, Mr. Owl?”
“Learn, by listening to the ways of others,” replied the owl. “Who, who, who am I to judge the ways of others.”

Courtesy @zenactive

:::LIFE CHANGING RULEBOOK : 10 Signs it’s Time to Let Go:::

Holding on is being brave, but letting go and moving on is often what makes us stronger and happier.

Here are ten signs it’s time to let go:

1.    Someone expects you to be someone you’re not. – Don’t change who you are for anyone else. 

2.    A person’s actions don’t match their words. – Everybody deserves somebody who helps them look forward to tomorrow.  If someone has the opposite effect on you, because they are consistently inconsistent and their actions don’t match up with their words, it’s time to let them go.

3.    You catch yourself forcing someone to love you. – Let us keep in mind that we can’t force anyone to love us.  We shouldn’t beg someone to stay when they want to leave.  That’s what love is all about – freedom. 

4.    An intimate relationship is based strictly on physical attraction. – Being beautiful is more than how many people you can get to look at you, or how others perceive you at a single glance.  It’s about what you live for.  It’s about what defines you.  It’s about the depth of your heart, and what makes you unique.  It’s about being who you are and living out your life honestly.  It’s about those little quirks that make you, you.  People who are only attracted to you because of your pretty face or nice body won’t stay by your side forever.  But the people who can see how beautiful your heart is will never leave you.

5.    Someone continuously breaks your trust. – Love means giving someone the chance to hurt you, but trusting them not to.  When you completely trust a person, without any doubt, you’ll automatically get one of two results - a FRIEND for life or a LESSON for life.  Either way there’s a positive outcome. 

6.    Someone continuously overlooks your worth. – Know your worth!  When you give yourself to someone who doesn’t respect you, you surrender pieces of your soul that you’ll never get back.  There comes a point when you have to let go and stop chasing some people. 

7.    You are never given a chance to speak your mind. – Sometimes an argument saves a relationship, whereas silence breaks it.  Speak up for your heart so that you won’t have regrets.  Life is not about making others happy.  Life is about being honest and sharing your happiness with others.
8.    You are frequently forced to sacrifice your happiness. – If you allow people to make more withdrawals than deposits in your life, you will be out of balance and in the negative before you know it.  Know when to close the account.  It’s always better to be alone with dignity than in a relationship that constantly requires you to sacrifice your happiness and self-respect. 

9.    You truly dislike your current situation, routine, job, etc. – It’s better to be a failure at something you love than to succeed at doing something you hate.  Don’t let someone who gave up on their dreams talk you out of going after yours. 

10.    You catch yourself obsessing over, and living in, the past. – Eventually you will overcome the heartache, and forget the reasons you cried, and who caused the pain.  Eventually you will realize that the secret to happiness and freedom is not about control or revenge, but in letting things unfold naturally, and learning from your experiences over the course of time.  After all, what matters most is not the first, but the final chapter of your life, which unveils the details of how well you wrote your story.  So let go of the past, set yourself free, and open your mind to the possibility of new relationships and priceless experiences.

And the one thing you should never let go of is hope.  Remember what you deserve and keep pushing forward.  Someday all the pieces will come together.  Unimaginably good things will transpire in your life, even if everything doesn’t turn out exactly the way you had anticipated.  And you will look back at the times that have passed, smile, and ask yourself, “How did I get through all of that?”

Courtesy @mark and angel

:::LIFE CHANGING MANTRAS : 12 Lies to Stop Telling Yourself:::

The worst lies are the ones we subconsciously tell ourselves.  They’ve been ingrained in our minds by bad external influences and negative thinking.  So the next time you decide to unclutter your life and clean up your space, start with your intellectual space by clearing out the old lies and negative self-talk you often recite to yourself.

Here are twelve such lies to stop telling yourself:
1.    I don’t have enough yet to be happy.
2.    My dreams are impossible.
3.    I am stuck with people who hurt me.
4.    My failed relationships were a waste of time.
5.    Things will never get better.
6.    Failure is bad.
7.    Great things will come to me effortlessly.
8.    My past is 100% indicative of my future.
9.    I never need to meet anyone new.
10.    I can’t live without those who are gone.
11.    I’m not ready because I’m not good enough yet.
12.     I have way too much to lose.

Lying to others is wrong, but lying to
yourself is an absolute tragedy.

I am sure as always this post will help you to build your life in a better way !!

Thanks & Warm Regards
Love , Light & Hugs

Vijay

Feature courtesy : @mark & angel

Live Simply ....!!!

Just add little things to your life to make it more happy ...!!!!

My Dear Souls ;

Namaste !!!

We often don't understand the demands of life. The requirements, the needs, the wants all summed up to a heap of materials and other things .

But all you want is very little : very less : very small :

Just add little adaptability , little acceptability, little love, little attention, little happiness , little forgiveness, little meditation , little cheers and laughs , little everything , which can make your day . Because it is always better to live in the moment than thinking of a tomorrow which never comes !!!

So friends, what are you all waiting for .. start collecting and adding these little wonders and make your life little more blessed , little more blissful , little more lively .

Pranaam
Much Love, Light and Hugs to you all.... !!!!
Vijay

Weekly self development post : 12-things-to-start-caring-about-today !!!!

Life is all about taking chances. It’s about doing something you initially thought you could never do. It’s about being a little crazy, following your heart, and not worrying about every detail of what everyone else thinks. And above all, it’s about learning to love who you are and what you have.

Here are twelve things to start caring about on your journey forward.

1. Start caring about your own happiness. – It’s important to make people happy, but you have to start with yourself. Sometimes we get lost trying to live our lives for someone else, trying to meet their expectations, or trying to do things just to impress others. But you’ve got to live, do and love so that YOU are happy. Because when it comes down to it, relationships can end in an instant, but you will live with yourself for the rest of your life.

2. Start caring about your goals and dreams. – If you want to know where your heart is, look where your mind goes when it wanders. As Steve Jobs once said, “Your time is limited, so don’t waste it living someone else’s life. Don’t be trapped by dogma, which is living with the results of other people’s thinking. Don’t let the noise of others’ opinions drown out your own inner voice, heart and intuition.

3. Start caring about how you invest your time every day. – There might not be a tomorrow, not for everyone. Right now, someone on Earth is planning something for tomorrow without realizing they’re going to die today. This is sad but true. So spend your time wisely and pause long enough to appreciate it. Remember, what you do every day matters more than what you do every once in awhile. Use a time management system to control events, rather than have events controlling you. It may take little time to get where you want to be, but if you think for a moment, you will realize that you are no longer where you once were. Do not stop – keep going. You’re getting closer every day.

4. Start caring about how you think and what you think about. – In your quiet moments, what do you think about? How far you’ve come, or how far you have to go? Your strengths, or your weaknesses? The best that might happen, or the worst that might come to be? In your quiet moments, pay attention to your self-talk. Because maybe, just maybe, the only thing that needs to shift in order for you to experience more happiness, more love, and more vitality, is your way of thinking.

5. Start caring about how you treat yourself. – Your relationship with yourself is the closest and most important relationship you will ever have. When was the last time someone told you that they loved you just the way you are, and that what you think and how you feel matters? When was the last time someone told you that you did a good job, or took you someplace, simply because they know you feel happy when you’re there? When was the last time that ‘someone’ was YOU? The way you treat yourself sets the standard for others. You must love who you are or no one else will either.

6. Start caring about how you treat others. – Live so that when the people around you think of fairness, caring and integrity, they think of you. Start noticing what you like about others and tell them. Having an appreciation for how amazing the people around you are leads to good places – productive, fulfilling, peaceful places. So be happy for those who are making progress. Cheer for their victories. Be thankful for their blessings, openly. What goes around comes around, and sooner or later the people you’re cheering for will start cheering for you.

7. Start caring about how others treat you. – Choose your relationships wisely. Being alone will never cause as much loneliness as the wrong relationship. If you don’t value yourself, look out for yourself, and stick up for yourself, you’re sabotaging yourself. Life is too short to spend time with people who suck the happiness out of you. Love the people who treat you right, and distance yourself from the ones who don’t.

8. Start caring about your health. – Exercise to be fit, not skinny. Eat to nourish your body. And always ignore the haters, doubters and unhealthy examples that were once feeding you. To truly be your best, you must give your body the fuel it needs. Toss the junk and fill your kitchen with fresh, whole foods. Run, swim, bike, walk… just move! Good health is essential for having the energy, stamina and outlook to tackle your goals and dreams. Bottom line: Your health is your life. Don’t let it go. Eat right, exercise and get an annual physical check-up.

9. Start caring about your education and personal growth. – Achieving higher consciousness comes from your commitment to personal growth. You’re a totally different person compared to who you were at this time last year; next year will be no different. How much you grow and who you become is up to you. But remember, the acquisition of knowledge doesn’t mean you’re growing. Growing happens when what you know changes how you live.

10. Start caring about doing the best YOU can. – Don’t worry about what others are doing better than you. Concentrate on beating your own records every day. Success is a battle between YOU and YOURSELF only. And whatever you do, refuse to lower your standards to accommodate those who refuse to raise theirs.

11. Start caring about all the wonderful things you have right now. – Learn to appreciate the things you have before time forces you appreciate the things you once had. No matter how good or bad you have it, wake up each day thankful for your life. Someone somewhere else is desperately fighting for theirs. Instead of thinking about what you’re missing, try thinking about what you have that everyone else is missing.

12. Start caring about this moment we call ‘life.’ – When I watched the Grammy Awards recently, I realized that many of the speeches musicians make when they accept an award go something like this: “This means so much to me. My whole life has been leading up to this moment.” But the truth is, our whole lives have been leading up to every moment. Think about that for a second. Every single thing you’ve gone through in life, every high, every low, and everything in between, it has led you to this moment right now. This moment is priceless, and it’s the only moment guaranteed to you. This moment is your ‘life.’ Don’t miss it.

Courtesy : http://www.marcandangel.com/

Living before Death .....!!!!

My dear souls;
Namaskar .

We all will die one day and at that final moment , only three questions shall be asked by your soul , before leaving finally :

1. Did I live ?
2. Did I love ?
3. Did I gave back to society /shared with society ?

And if your single or all answers are “ NO “ than you did not live at all. And if your all answers are in “ YES “ than you have made it a point to get a big HUG from GOD !!!!

But , if your answers are “ NO “ than just Don’t worry. Because if you are reading this post than you are alive and GOD has some special moments saved for you in his kitty !
So start Living from this very single moment , love one and all. Stop hatred , start giving back to society in some form .

Live happily , this is your only and last chance to make your soul happy and proud that the soul was in a body which lived, loved and cared !!!

GOD Bless you all.

Love, Lights & hugs
Vijay

I have learned .......

"I've learned that you can tell a lot about a person by the way he/she handles these three things: a rainy day, lost luggage and tangled Christmas tree lights.

I've learned that making a 'living' is not the same thing as 'making a life'.

I've learned that whenever I decide something with an open heart, I usually make the right decision.

I've learned that you shouldn't go through life with a catcher's mitt on both hands; you need to be able to throw some things back."

-Maya Angelou

My Dear Souls
Namaskar !

Ever You noticed that what is that which makes or destroys the life and its course !

It is the very single MOMENT .

It is the moment which triggers various moments like : moment of love , moment of hate, moment of lust, moment of inspiration , moment of despair , moment of anger, moment of passion, moment of learning , moment of construction, moment of  destruction, moment of rage, moment of motherhood etc etc etc.

This very single moment changes the dynamics of our life, it changes the course of our life, it makes or destroys our life and what not, specially this very single moment makes or kills our much valuable relations !!!

We try to change our life , we try to control our life ; but it is the moment which requires our attention . It is the moment which needs correction ; BUT it is very difficult . It requires lot of conscious control over our body, mind & heart – than only our soul follows the directions and this very single moment gets controlled by us .

Today ; I tell you only to start exercising to control the emotions and actions which can lead to control the moment of your life : the better control of the moment very positively and constructively will make your life much better and in the whole process you will become a better person : which is the ultimate aim of Hrudayam !

Pranaam ;
Love, Light & Hugs !
Vijay

Simple recipes of life !!

My Dear Souls
Namaskaar !

Sometimes, life doesn't behave with us , the way we want it to behave !
As a result we get heart-burns ! And all of us suffer from this phase at some time of our life . So here are some remedies from my desk !

Just follow these simple recipes of life !!

1. Indulge in your friends
2. Play with your kids
3. Move out along with your father and brother .
4. Talk to me [ by email /chat/message /phone ]
5. Try to forget everything [ slowly ]
6. Think - this is the destiny
7. Start meditation
8. Listen to music . sing & dance
9. Try to get tired as soon as possible.
10. Sleep
11. Don't blame yourself
12. Understand and appreciate that you are most important to you.
13. Start doing painting /art work
14. Life is a continuous journey
15. Finally , nothing is permanent .

So just move on !
Live !
Relax !

love, light & hugs
Vijay

12 ways of living life, which can change your life !!

My Dear Souls ;

Today I am sharing some great thoughts as how to live life in a better way : 

This is courtesy @  http://www.marcandangel.com 

Please read the following and apply to your life !!

1. Express gratitude. – When you appreciate what you have, what you have appreciates in value.  Kinda cool right?  So basically, being grateful for the goodness that is already evident in your life will bring you a deeper sense of happiness.  And that’s without having to go out and buy anything.  It makes sense.  We’re gonna have a hard time ever being happy if we aren’t thankful for what we already have.
2. Cultivate optimism. – Winners have the ability to manufacture their own optimism.  No matter what the situation, the successful diva is the chick who will always find a way to put an optimistic spin on it.  She knows failure only as an opportunity to grow and learn a new lesson from life.  People who think optimistically see the world as a place packed with endless opportunities, especially in trying times.
3. Avoid over-thinking and social comparison. – Comparing yourself to someone else can be poisonous.  If we’re somehow ‘better’ than the person that we’re comparing ourselves to, it gives us an unhealthy sense of superiority.  Our ego inflates – KABOOM – our inner Kanye West comes out!  If we’re ‘worse’ than the person that we’re comparing ourselves to, we usually discredit the hard work that we’ve done and dismiss all the progress that we’ve made.  What I’ve found is that the majority of the time this type of social comparison doesn’t stem from a healthy place.  If you feel called to compare yourself to something, compare yourself to an earlier version of yourself.
4. Practice acts of kindness. – Performing an act of kindness releases serotonin in your brain.  (Serotonin is a substance that has TREMENDOUS health benefits, including making us feel more blissful.)  Selflessly helping someone is a super powerful way to feel good inside.  What’s even cooler about this kindness kick is that not only will you feel better, but so will people watching the act of kindness.  How extraordinary is that?  Bystanders will be blessed with a release of serotonin just by watching what’s going on.  A side note is that the job of most anti-depressants is to release more serotonin.  Move over Pfizer, kindness is kicking ass and taking names.
5. Nurture social relationships. – The happiest people on the planet are the ones who have deep, meaningful relationships.  Did you know studies show that people’s mortality rates are DOUBLED when they’re lonely?  WHOA!  There’s a warm fuzzy feeling that comes from having an active circle of good friends who you can share your experiences with.  We feel connected and a part of something more meaningful than our lonesome existence.
6. Develop strategies for coping. – How you respond to the ‘craptastic’ moments is what shapes your character.  Sometimes crap happens – it’s inevitable.  Forrest Gump knows the deal.  It can be hard to come up with creative solutions in the moment when manure is making its way up toward the fan.  It helps to have healthy strategies for coping pre-rehearsed, on-call, and in your arsenal at your disposal.
7. Learn to forgive. – Harboring feelings of hatred is horrible for your well-being.  You see, your mind doesn’t know the difference between past and present emotion.  When you ‘hate’ someone, and you’re continuously thinking about it, those negative emotions are eating away at your immune system.  You put yourself in a state of suckerism (technical term) and it stays with you throughout your day.
8. Increase flow experiences. – Flow is a state in which it feels like time stands still.  It’s when you’re so focused on what you’re doing that you become one with the task.  Action and awareness are merged.  You’re not hungry, sleepy, or emotional.  You’re just completely engaged in the activity that you’re doing.  Nothing is distracting you or competing for your focus.
9. Savor life’s joys. – Deep happiness cannot exist without slowing down to enjoy the joy.  It’s easy in a world of wild stimuli and omnipresent movement to forget to embrace life’s enjoyable experiences.  When we neglect to appreciate, we rob the moment of its magic.  It’s the simple things in life that can be the most rewarding if we remember to fully experience them.
10. Commit to your goals. – Being wholeheartedly dedicated to doing something comes fully-equipped with an ineffable force.  Magical things start happening when we commit ourselves to doing whatever it takes to get somewhere.  When you’re fully committed to doing something, you have no choice but to do that thing.  Counter-intuitively, having no option – where you can’t change your mind – subconsciously makes humans happier because they know part of their purpose.
11. Practice spirituality. – When we practice spirituality or religion, we recognize that life is bigger than us.  We surrender the silly idea that we are the mightiest thing ever.  It enables us to connect to the source of all creation and embrace a connectedness with everything that exists.  Some of the most accomplished people I know feel that they’re here doing work they’re “called to do.”
12. Take care of your body. – Taking care of your body is crucial to being the happiest person you can be.  If you don’t have your physical energy in good shape, then your mental energy (your focus), your emotional energy (your feelings), and your spiritual energy (your purpose) will all be negatively affected.  Did you know that studies conducted on people who were clinically depressed showed that consistent exercise raises happiness levels just as much as Zoloft?  Not only that, but here’s the double whammy… Six months later, the people who participated in exercise were less likely to relapse because they had a higher sense of self-accomplishment and self-worth.

how to bury the past and move on:

My Dear Souls;

Today I would like to suggest few tips on how to bury the past and move on:

1. Understand that nothing is permanent in life.
2. Things, people and relationships do change, and we should be ready to accept this fact.
3. It takes huge time involvement and investment to understand people, so don’t rush into a serious relationship while the scars of the first one are still fresh
4. Don’t spoil or throw away your own happiness and joy in life, because of the mistakes, faults and imperfections in others.
5. Relationships collapse due to expectations and very often less realistic ones. so if you want to have a lasting relationship, have minimum expectations
6. Don’t remain obsesses with what you have given in the relationship.
7. Also celebrate what you have received, what you have given was also a part of a happy , joyful, loving relationship , so don’t hold on to it, let go and move on !

I am sure these valuable tips will help you all to overcome your personal issues on past and relationship. I can only wish a great life for all my members & friends.

Pranaam

Love, Light & Hugs

Vijay

WISHING YOU ALL A VERY HAPPY MERRY CHRISTMAS !!

HAPPY THANKSGIVING

Hrudayam wishes all members and their families a very happy Thanksgiving Day .
Today is a day of celebration of happiness of harvest and other joys of life.

I have only prayer and message for you all :
Please say thanks to GOD first than to your parents and than to all your friends and relatives and thus the thanksgiving message spreads .BUT try to get THANKS from some unfortunate brothers and sisters of our society by helping them , by supporting them , since GOD has blessed you with all the good things of life: please share some part with the poor and needy and let me tell you; the moment you get a THANK YOU from a needy person/family , whom you helps - that will be the moment of LIFE . That will be the moment of JOY , that will be the moment of Happiness and that will be moment of THANKSGIVING !!!

GOD bless You all..!!!

Pranaam
Love, Lights & Hugs
VIJAY

Understand your inner soul.............!!!

My dear friends,

Do not listen to anyone.. Relax. Understand your inner soul . Understand your relation with the world and its sub -sections like people, nature, animals, materials etc.......than relax.. appreciate your being in this universe. than unfold and live life to your wish ...people around may not like it.. but its OK... just live , because every second , every moment counts as how you ...have lived..... !

This is my only message to all of you !!!!

Love, Lights & hugs !!!
Vijay Kumar

YES .......!!!!

MY DEAR FRIENDS,

TODAY I WILL TELL YOU ABOUT A VERY POWERFUL WORD. BELIEVE ME , THIS WORD WILL CHANGE YOUR LIFE FOREVER . JUST SPEAK, SAY, REPEAT THIS WORD EVERY NOW & THAN , TO YOURSELF AND TO EVERYONE NEAR AND AROUND YOU . AND YOU WILL FIND THE MIRACLES RELATED TO YOUR LIFE START HAPPENING .

AND THE WORD IS ........

YES , YES , YES !!!!

SPEAK LOUDLY TO YOUR HEART AND MIND THIS SIMPLE WORD AN YOU WILL FIND THINGS ARE TURNING YOUR WAY ..

LOVE, LIGHTS & HUGS

VIJAY

Few Lessons of Life from my desk :::

1. No guru is better than any Shishya [ disciple ] .

2. No shishya [ disciple ] is better than any Guru .

3. All paths are many roads to going to one stop !!!

4. When we think , we are more knowledgeable , we are actually more foolish .

5. There is No point in using any name just to show our growth towards that cult ,person, or anything .

6. at the same time , by using the name , we unknowingly creates a sublime way for us to walk.

7. We should not use foul and aggressive language to express our point of view.

8. Unknowingly all of us are fighting for the same statements of Life .

9. Buddha's path is path of every Human being on this planet . And we all are walking on this path ,knowingly or unknowingly.

10. Put your logic, mind , perceptions, knowledge and all other garbage to rest and just love !!!

Swami Prem Vijay

FROM THAN TO NOW ................!!!!

It is sometimes foolish to think what we did in the past which leaves bad memories and a feel of guilt and a depressive state of mind : all of these telling us that we did a mistake at that time. 

Now ' AT THAT TIME' concept is something to think. We did exactly right at that time, because of our instincts , because of our beliefs , because of our traits , because of our feelings and finally because of our surroundings !!!!

Once we think of all these elements which pushed us to do that particular act [ like falling in love and getting hurt in love, like fighting back with close relatives and friends, like leaving good jobs , like divorcing , like leaving friends etc etc ] ; we will slowly realise that we are part of a designated destined act of GOD with our own inputs .

So if you see there are really no failures or mishaps , its only happenings of our life and so what next : very easy : A LESSON of life , for life, by life.....!

Let us not repeat those silly mistakes. NO more repenting or regretting , its better to move on with an experience and a lesson .

After all , Nothing happens just like that . There is a reason behind every act.
so , no more " AT THAT TIME " it should be more of " RIGHT NOW , RIGHT HERE , THIS TIME OF PRESENT MOMENT ".

Love, Lights, Care and Regards
Vijay

Love & Friednship

My Dear Holy Souls;

Very Good Morning!!!

Today I would like to tell you something, which all you faces in your life.

We all search for Love and Friendship throughout our Life, and when we get this, we spoil these two most important parts of our life, by applying our mind, logic and by talking too much or aggressive talks.

We forget that getting these two things in life is most important for every human creature but, the sooner we get, the faster we destroy it. Blame it on our useless mind and our baseless talks.

Please remember that In case of Love and Friendship the worldly interference is not required, these two things are to be lived.

So Stop applying mind, logic, and stop talking too much, when, you are with your beloved or with your friend. Because there only two of you matters not the world.

Pranaam

Swami Prem Vijay

EVERYDAY IS A NEW DAY

My dear friends. It is just another day in paradise. And You should not forget to Thank GOD for this new day in your life. And the order of the day is very simple .

1. Pray Silently for the world.

2. Smile.

3. Forget the past.

4. Forgive everyone including yourself.

5. Laugh loudly.

6. Kiss slowly.

7. Wave hands to kids.

8. Praise the nature around you.

9. Give 100% to your job/work.

10. Relax in the mind, heart and body.

11. Open your heart to everyone.

12. BE KIND and GENTLE to everyone.

And finally last but not the least - Love your life !!!

Pranaam

Vijay

TRANSFORMATION

TRANSFORMATION

Standing alone in the evening of heavy rains,

And looking upwards to the dark sky,

With full of storming thunders,

And many dark clouds around.

I started Praying for more and more

Of such lashes of heavy rain,

On my body, on my mind and on my soul;

So that it could wash away my past,

It could wash away all my unknowingly sins,

It could wash away my baseless ego,

It could wash away my useless anger,

It could wash away my earthly beliefs,

It could wash away my wrongdoings,

It could wash away ME.

I am looking to GOD;

Like a baron infertile land,

Waiting for ages for the misty drops,

Drops of love,

Drops of harmony,

Drops of life,

Drops of laughter,

Drops of joy,

Drops of bliss.

Let me begin again a new dawn of life

After this heavy night of rain,

With a whispering sound of fresh air,

With a glittering vision for the road ahead,

And with a zest for the life, which I never lived.

O My GOD, 

Please transform me again into a new child

Again Full of strength,

Full of laughter and full of joy,

O GOD, please bless me again

For a new life!!!

 

Don't Quit ....... You will WIN ......!!!

When things go wrong, as they sometimes will,
When the road you're trudging seems all uphill,
When the funds are low and the debts are high,
And you want to smile, but you have to sigh,
When care is pressing you down a bit,
Rest, if you must, but don't you quit.

Life is queer with its twists and turns,
As every one of us sometimes learns,
And many a failure turns about,
When he might have won had he stuck it out;
Don't give up though the pace seems slow--
You may succeed with another blow.

Often the goal is nearer than,
It seems to a faint and faltering man,
Often the struggler has given up,
When he might have captured the victor's cup,
And he learned too late when the night slipped down,
How close he was to the golden crown.

Success is failure turned inside out
The silver tint of the clouds of doubt,
And you never can tell how close you are,
It may be near when it seems so far,
So stick to the fight when you're hardest hit--
It's when things seem worst that you must not quit.

- Author unknown

A to Z of Motivation

Avoid Negative Thoughts, People, Things and Habits.

Believe in yourself.

Consider things from every angle and others points of view.

Dare to Dream and Dream Big

Energy, Excitement and Enthusiasm is in your blood.

Family and Friends are hidden treasures; enjoy these riches.

Give more than you planned to.

Have a good sense of humour.

Ignore Criticism, Ridicule and Discouragement from others.

Jump on Problems because they are Opportunities in disguise.

Keep up the good work however hard it may seem.

Love yourself, just as you are.

Make Impossibility a Possibility.

Never lie, cheat or steal, always strike a fair deal.

Open your eyes and see things as they really are.

Perfect Practice makes you perfect.

Quitters never Win and Winners never Quit.

Reward yourself for every small success and achievement.

Stop Wasting your Time and Procrastinating important Goals.

Take control of your Life and your Goals.

Understand so that you could Understood.

Visualize your Goals and Dreams everyday.

Win over your own weaknesses and make them as your Strengths.

Xccelerate your efforts

Yes Yes Yes, Yes you Can and You Will…!

Zap your Stress and Enjoy your Life..