My Dear Souls
Namaskar !

Ever You noticed that what is that which makes or destroys the life and its course !

It is the very single MOMENT .

It is the moment which triggers various moments like : moment of love , moment of hate, moment of lust, moment of inspiration , moment of despair , moment of anger, moment of passion, moment of learning , moment of construction, moment of  destruction, moment of rage, moment of motherhood etc etc etc.

This very single moment changes the dynamics of our life, it changes the course of our life, it makes or destroys our life and what not, specially this very single moment makes or kills our much valuable relations !!!

We try to change our life , we try to control our life ; but it is the moment which requires our attention . It is the moment which needs correction ; BUT it is very difficult . It requires lot of conscious control over our body, mind & heart – than only our soul follows the directions and this very single moment gets controlled by us .

Today ; I tell you only to start exercising to control the emotions and actions which can lead to control the moment of your life : the better control of the moment very positively and constructively will make your life much better and in the whole process you will become a better person : which is the ultimate aim of Hrudayam !

Pranaam ;
Love, Light & Hugs !
Vijay

Simple recipes of life !!

My Dear Souls
Namaskaar !

Sometimes, life doesn't behave with us , the way we want it to behave !
As a result we get heart-burns ! And all of us suffer from this phase at some time of our life . So here are some remedies from my desk !

Just follow these simple recipes of life !!

1. Indulge in your friends
2. Play with your kids
3. Move out along with your father and brother .
4. Talk to me [ by email /chat/message /phone ]
5. Try to forget everything [ slowly ]
6. Think - this is the destiny
7. Start meditation
8. Listen to music . sing & dance
9. Try to get tired as soon as possible.
10. Sleep
11. Don't blame yourself
12. Understand and appreciate that you are most important to you.
13. Start doing painting /art work
14. Life is a continuous journey
15. Finally , nothing is permanent .

So just move on !
Live !
Relax !

love, light & hugs
Vijay

12 ways of living life, which can change your life !!

My Dear Souls ;

Today I am sharing some great thoughts as how to live life in a better way : 

This is courtesy @  http://www.marcandangel.com 

Please read the following and apply to your life !!

1. Express gratitude. – When you appreciate what you have, what you have appreciates in value.  Kinda cool right?  So basically, being grateful for the goodness that is already evident in your life will bring you a deeper sense of happiness.  And that’s without having to go out and buy anything.  It makes sense.  We’re gonna have a hard time ever being happy if we aren’t thankful for what we already have.
2. Cultivate optimism. – Winners have the ability to manufacture their own optimism.  No matter what the situation, the successful diva is the chick who will always find a way to put an optimistic spin on it.  She knows failure only as an opportunity to grow and learn a new lesson from life.  People who think optimistically see the world as a place packed with endless opportunities, especially in trying times.
3. Avoid over-thinking and social comparison. – Comparing yourself to someone else can be poisonous.  If we’re somehow ‘better’ than the person that we’re comparing ourselves to, it gives us an unhealthy sense of superiority.  Our ego inflates – KABOOM – our inner Kanye West comes out!  If we’re ‘worse’ than the person that we’re comparing ourselves to, we usually discredit the hard work that we’ve done and dismiss all the progress that we’ve made.  What I’ve found is that the majority of the time this type of social comparison doesn’t stem from a healthy place.  If you feel called to compare yourself to something, compare yourself to an earlier version of yourself.
4. Practice acts of kindness. – Performing an act of kindness releases serotonin in your brain.  (Serotonin is a substance that has TREMENDOUS health benefits, including making us feel more blissful.)  Selflessly helping someone is a super powerful way to feel good inside.  What’s even cooler about this kindness kick is that not only will you feel better, but so will people watching the act of kindness.  How extraordinary is that?  Bystanders will be blessed with a release of serotonin just by watching what’s going on.  A side note is that the job of most anti-depressants is to release more serotonin.  Move over Pfizer, kindness is kicking ass and taking names.
5. Nurture social relationships. – The happiest people on the planet are the ones who have deep, meaningful relationships.  Did you know studies show that people’s mortality rates are DOUBLED when they’re lonely?  WHOA!  There’s a warm fuzzy feeling that comes from having an active circle of good friends who you can share your experiences with.  We feel connected and a part of something more meaningful than our lonesome existence.
6. Develop strategies for coping. – How you respond to the ‘craptastic’ moments is what shapes your character.  Sometimes crap happens – it’s inevitable.  Forrest Gump knows the deal.  It can be hard to come up with creative solutions in the moment when manure is making its way up toward the fan.  It helps to have healthy strategies for coping pre-rehearsed, on-call, and in your arsenal at your disposal.
7. Learn to forgive. – Harboring feelings of hatred is horrible for your well-being.  You see, your mind doesn’t know the difference between past and present emotion.  When you ‘hate’ someone, and you’re continuously thinking about it, those negative emotions are eating away at your immune system.  You put yourself in a state of suckerism (technical term) and it stays with you throughout your day.
8. Increase flow experiences. – Flow is a state in which it feels like time stands still.  It’s when you’re so focused on what you’re doing that you become one with the task.  Action and awareness are merged.  You’re not hungry, sleepy, or emotional.  You’re just completely engaged in the activity that you’re doing.  Nothing is distracting you or competing for your focus.
9. Savor life’s joys. – Deep happiness cannot exist without slowing down to enjoy the joy.  It’s easy in a world of wild stimuli and omnipresent movement to forget to embrace life’s enjoyable experiences.  When we neglect to appreciate, we rob the moment of its magic.  It’s the simple things in life that can be the most rewarding if we remember to fully experience them.
10. Commit to your goals. – Being wholeheartedly dedicated to doing something comes fully-equipped with an ineffable force.  Magical things start happening when we commit ourselves to doing whatever it takes to get somewhere.  When you’re fully committed to doing something, you have no choice but to do that thing.  Counter-intuitively, having no option – where you can’t change your mind – subconsciously makes humans happier because they know part of their purpose.
11. Practice spirituality. – When we practice spirituality or religion, we recognize that life is bigger than us.  We surrender the silly idea that we are the mightiest thing ever.  It enables us to connect to the source of all creation and embrace a connectedness with everything that exists.  Some of the most accomplished people I know feel that they’re here doing work they’re “called to do.”
12. Take care of your body. – Taking care of your body is crucial to being the happiest person you can be.  If you don’t have your physical energy in good shape, then your mental energy (your focus), your emotional energy (your feelings), and your spiritual energy (your purpose) will all be negatively affected.  Did you know that studies conducted on people who were clinically depressed showed that consistent exercise raises happiness levels just as much as Zoloft?  Not only that, but here’s the double whammy… Six months later, the people who participated in exercise were less likely to relapse because they had a higher sense of self-accomplishment and self-worth.

how to bury the past and move on:

My Dear Souls;

Today I would like to suggest few tips on how to bury the past and move on:

1. Understand that nothing is permanent in life.
2. Things, people and relationships do change, and we should be ready to accept this fact.
3. It takes huge time involvement and investment to understand people, so don’t rush into a serious relationship while the scars of the first one are still fresh
4. Don’t spoil or throw away your own happiness and joy in life, because of the mistakes, faults and imperfections in others.
5. Relationships collapse due to expectations and very often less realistic ones. so if you want to have a lasting relationship, have minimum expectations
6. Don’t remain obsesses with what you have given in the relationship.
7. Also celebrate what you have received, what you have given was also a part of a happy , joyful, loving relationship , so don’t hold on to it, let go and move on !

I am sure these valuable tips will help you all to overcome your personal issues on past and relationship. I can only wish a great life for all my members & friends.

Pranaam

Love, Light & Hugs

Vijay