Sunday, June 9, 2013

My life is your Life and your Life is my life ....!!!

My Dear souls ; 

from Today I am starting one Sunday post : 

This is basically a simple message which can connect all of us . I ma sure you all will like this initiative.... 

here is this Sunday's message !!!

My life is your Life and your Life is my life ....!!!

Much Love, Light, Hugs, Blessings !!!

Saturday, June 8, 2013


My Dear Souls;

For me .... LIFE is a dance. I enjoy its every moment . Sometimes the moments bring sadness to me...... sometimes JOY ... BUT in its totality ; I am here to sing , dance, paint, photograph, write, create and spread love and peace. 

Much Love, Light , Hugs , Blessings and YES smiles to you all. 


Pray for the needy !!!!

My Dear Souls ;

The world is full of needy , poor, unfortunate brothers and sisters ; many of them are small kids and old people . 

Please take some moments from your busy life and pray for them. You are such a good soul, you never know ;your prayer may heal someone's pain. 

I firmly believe in prayers . YES GOD is there , and our soulful and pious prayers will reach him and someone among us , someone in some part of this planet will receive your unconditional prayer and his/her life may get some betterment.

Please do this . This is my humble request . I organize this now every month . please give something back to the society . Your prayer may be a stepping stone !!!

Much Love , Light , Hugs , Blessings !!

Vijay Sappatti

Friday, June 7, 2013

Life ......

My Dear Souls;

For me .... LIFE is a dance. I enjoy its every moment . Sometimes the moments bring sadness to me...... sometimes JOY ... BUT in its totality ; I am here to sing , dance, paint, photograph, write, create and spread love and peace. 

Much Love, Light , Hugs , Blessings and YES smiles to you all. 


Thursday, June 6, 2013

Life Management Tools : 5 Ways to Avoid the Biggest Regrets of Dying

Death comes to all of us at some point.  Have you thought about how you would feel when the time comes for you to die?  Have you considered if you would have any regrets about how you led your life?

A palliative nurse who counseled dying patients in the final weeks of their lives took the liberty to record the most common regrets among them.  Many of her patient’s regrets were revealing statements like: wishing they didn’t work so hard, wishing they had the courage to express their feelings, and wishing they had stayed in touch with their friends.

I believe in learning from the experiences of others.  Having the insights of people who have lived to the end of their lives is strikingly helpful in living our best lives.  Rather than reiterate the details of their regrets, I’m going to share them briefly and provide suggestions on how we can ensure that these regrets don’t become our regrets on our deathbeds someday.  While we can’t change our past, we can change the present and the future.  How our lives pan out from here is dependent on what we do starting today.

Regret #1:  

I wish I’d had the courage to live a life true to myself, not the life others expected of me.

Are you living the life you have always wanted for yourself?  Or are you simply living a life based on what others expect of you?
Many people today live their life around the expectations of others.  Among my friends, many of them often make decisions based on what their partners or what other people want, rather than because of what they want or believe.  Among my one-to-one coaching clients, they often complain about being trapped in careers they dislike because they chose careers which were deemed acceptable by their peers and family, rather than pursuing career paths that interested them.

I was raised in an oppressive manner by my parents and by my education system.  While I have never faulted anyone for such an upbringing because I believe my parents and teachers came from a place of good intention, I did grow up feeling repressed.  I would do things to conform to what others wanted for me, rather than doing things I wanted to do, and this made me very unhappy most of the time.

Being raised this way made me realize the importance of living a life true to myself.  When I was in my early 20s, I began to come into my own, steadily making decisions and acting in a way that was truer to who I was as an individual.  When I realized I was no longer in love with my corporate career, I quit and moved on to pursue my true passion to help others grow.  When I felt it was time to do what I love to do, I readily started my personal development business (which I continue to run today), by way of my blog Personal Excellence.  When I realized I had friendships which were no longer compatible with the person I had become, I immediately let them go rather than keep up a pretense.

How to avoid this:
Stand true to your beliefs.  If you face naysayers, listen to their feedback, but don’t sweat over it if you don’t agree with what they say.  Just as others have the right to express their views, you have your right not to regard them.  Remember that you don’t live your life to please.  As Winston Churchill puts it:  “You have enemies?  Good.  That means you’ve stood up for something, sometime in your life.”  

Regret #2:  

I wish I didn’t work so hard.

Our modern society is one which drowns itself in busy-work.  People are busier than ever, working twelve-hour workdays, and sometimes even longer.  Parents rarely have time for their kids, and instead relegate care-taking duties to daycares, nannies and grandparents.  People rarely have enough time for relationships or personal activities, often prioritizing their work ahead of everything else because it’s their livelihood.  For some, work forms the core part of their identity.

How to avoid this:
There’s no such thing as “not having enough time.”  It’s only a matter of what you set as your priorities.  If you don’t have enough time for your relationships, it means that you are not making them a priority.  If you missed your anniversary with your lover, it’s only because you deemed the anniversary as less important than whatever it is you had to do at that time.  If you consistently miss your gym classes, it’s only because you are not committed to staying in shape, even if you claim otherwise.

Everyone has the same amount of time every day, be it successful entrepreneurs like Bill Gates, financial moguls like Warren Buffet, top athletes like Serena Williams, or inspirational leaders like Oprah Winfrey.  It’s silly to think of yourself as not having enough time relative to others, because these go-getters are making productive leaps ahead every day even though they have the same amount of time at their disposal as you do.

Make a conscious choice on what you want to spend time on.  What do you value the most in life?  Are you spending your time in line with your priorities?  If you answer no to the latter question, it means there is a misalignment between your desires and your actions.

Regret #3: 

I wish I’d had the courage to express my feelings.

Is there someone you like?  Are you afraid to open your heart to him or her?  Have there been times when you closed your heart to love because you were afraid of what would happen if you opened yourself up to it?

You aren’t alone.  I have quite a few friends who are single, not because they are inadequate (in fact they are high achievers, great lookers in their own right, with great personalities to boot), but because they are closed off to love.  They repeatedly dismiss opportunities to meet new people and expand their social circles.  Whenever there is a guy or girl they take a fancy to, they choose not to act on their desires, instead finding one billion and one excuses why this person is not “the one” for them.

How to avoid this:
I believe it’s better to regret doing something than to regret doing nothing.  In fact, I rarely ever hear of people who regret acting on their desires, even if the outcome may not be what they were looking for.  On the contrary, I always hear about people who regret not doing something and who are now plagued with the question of “What if?”

If you are afraid of expressing your feelings, ask yourself, “What is there to lose?” or “What’s the worst that could happen?”  I believe in wearing your heart on your sleeve and being true to yourself, rather than hiding your feelings.  At worst, the person will reject you and you will realize that your feelings had been misdirected all along.

But wait, is that really a worst-case scenario?  Because now you will know the truth and be able to move on, rather than lingering around a one-sided romance.  On the other hand, if the person reveals similar feelings, you will then be on the way to building a budding romance.  Either way you will be grateful that you acted on your feelings rather than hiding behind a facade out of a mental fear of being rejected.

Regret #4:  

I wish I had stayed in touch with my friends.

Friendships are often put on the back burner relative to other things, such as one’s career, romantic relationships, financial goals, and personal agendas.
Why?  Because we tend to think friendships will stay afloat even when we do not give them due attention.  As such, many of us take our friends for granted, often pushing back social appointments in the name of work, cancelling on friends at the last minute, or simply not putting in the due effort to meet up with friends face to face.

How to avoid this:
Rather than wait for your friends to initiate a get together, why not take the first step?  Many of my social appointments and gatherings are often self-initiated.  My proactive behavior has encouraged my friends to reciprocate in terms of putting in more effort to build our friendships.  I don’t think there’s a need to wait on other people to meet up; it takes two hands to clap and you can always be the one to gets things moving.

As you reach out to friends, there will be people who do not reciprocate your efforts.  That’s okay.  Don’t take it to heart; sometimes people have different priorities and there’s no need to force a connection if it’s not working out.  Simply move on to the friends who are reciprocating your efforts.  You will build more authentic and fruitful connections this way.

Regret #5:  
I wish that I had let myself be happier.

Are you deeply unhappy?  Are you always complaining about little things that go wrong?  Are you always harping on the things you don’t have or things you have missed out on, rather than appreciating the things you do have today and the things you have gained?

Too many people are deeply unhappy not because of their place in life, but because of their misperceptions about what it takes to be happy.  If anything, many of these unhappy people are highly affluent and privileged; they have a comfortable place to live, a stable job, a regular disposable income, a healthy social network, and a family to return home to.

It’s as John Galbraith mentioned in The Affluent Society : “Despite the increasing wealth of the society, people are not happier – in fact, they have become unhappier.”  Why?  Their unhappiness isn’t due to a lack of material wealth, but because they have flawed perceptions of what it takes to be happy.  They think happiness comes from material goods or financial wealth, when these things are simply means to live a better quality life, rather than vehicles of happiness itself.

How to avoid this:
Recognize that happiness is a choice.  Many people relegate their happiness to external factors.  They think they can only be happy if they achieve X, Y, and Z or if X, Y, and Z criteria is satisfied.
Of course, the problem is this criteria is entirely untrue.  Happiness doesn’t happen when those things are achieved; happiness is something you can experience now in this moment if you allow it to happen.  You CAN be happy now if you want to be.  The question is:  Do you?
Here’s a web-lecture on the ten timeless principles on how to be happy:

Now Your turn…
How do you feel about these five common regrets of the dying?  What would you regret not fully doing, being or having in your life?  Please leave a comment below and share your thoughts.

Post courtesy : Celestine Shua / Marc and angel website

SOUL Speech : Why We Don’t Know How To Live

Life is to live and to live in peace and harmony. And without enlightenment, you cannot really live. The essence of enlightenment is that it will make you aware, make you conscious and you will know what you exist for -- to live with consciousness. The essence of enlightenment is that you will know how to play the game of life well and effortlessly.

Effort is very important to reach a state of effortlessness. Till you are not able to discover that state of effortlessness, effort should be put in spontaneously. Look around nature and you will find effort happening spontaneously and harmoniously, it is intrinsic to nature.

Animals know how to live; they live perfectly; all the trees know how to live, they live perfectly. Their effort is spontaneous. We human beings have some problem… we do not know how to live. We are constantly making effort, effort, effort… And things only get worse, worse and worse. The more you make an effort for peace, for love, harmony, for anything, the more you end up confusing yourself, and complicating your life.

Now let me tell you a secret, a very big secret of nature: nobody knows in the beginning how to drive the cycle, but when you have a very strong aspiration or desire or a need to drive a bicycle, then you start making an effort to learn it. And when you are learning, with a learning attitude how to drive a bike, you make many mistakes. But you are making an effort to learn, so you do not stop!

Life is like that! Make your effort! Don’t bother if your efforts are right or wrong. But your intentions should be clear, that you are making an effort to learn how to drive. And one day, after making so many mistakes, one day you will start driving very correctly, very beautifully.

Till we don’t know how to live life, we, with our limited nature, with our limited consciousness are making an effort and learning, learning, learning how to live it. But our capacities are limited and so our efforts are also small. We have to realise that we have the divine presence in us. That is realisation. That is enlightenment. If we are holding the Divine in us, then why don’t we activate our divinity? And when we activate our divinity, then we will be making effort in the right direction…the effort that will lead to clarity and an effortless life.

Cultivate faith. Then you will not rely or depend on your capacities. You will rely and depend on the Divine; you will surrender to the Divine.

The Divine is with you, and in you, Divine is your highest potential, Divine is your highest nature. How when you move, when you think, when you act, when you react, all this actions, reactions, movements, they should be with divine light and movements, with the divine connection and capacities. Then everything will be spontaneous, natural. We have to discover that state, we have to realise that state.

Always feel gratitude and open yourself to realise divinity within. How can this supramental light, supramental energy manifest and liberate us from all the lack of peace love, knowledge, consciousness, all that which makes us limited, finite, which does not allow us to live in bliss and joy and consciousness?  It’s a question of resolving to make the effort and then going about it methodically. 

Post courtesy : Swami Brahmdev : Speaking Tree 

ZEN STORY : To change the world

I read the first chapter of “A Brief History Of Time” when Dad was still alive, and I got incredibly heavy boots about how relatively insignificant life is, and how, compared to the universe and compared to time, it didn’t even matter if I existed at all.

When Dad was tucking me in that night and we were talking about the book, I asked if he could think of a solution to that problem. “What problem?” “The problem of how relatively insignificant we are.”

He said, “Well, what would happen if a plane dropped you in the middle of the Sahara Desert and you picked up a single grain of sand with tweezers and moved it one millimetre?” I said, “I’d probably die of dehydration.” He said, “I just mean right then, when you moved that single grain of sand. What would that mean?”

I said, “I dunno, what?” He said. “Think about it.” I thought about it. “I guess I would have moved a grain of sand.” “Which would mean?” “Which would mean I moved a grain of sand?” “Which would mean you changed the Sahara.”

“So?” “So?” So the Sahara is a vast desert. And it has existed for million of years. And you changed it!” “That’s true!” I said, sitting up. “I changed the Sahara!”
“Which means?” he said. “What? Tell me.” “Well, I’m not talking about painting the Mona Lisa or curing cancer. I’m just talking about moving that one grain of sand one millimetre.”

“Yeah?” “If you hadn’t done it, human history would have been one way …” “Uh-huh?” “But, you did do it, so …?”

I stood on the bed, pointed my fingers at the fake stars, and screamed: “I changed the universe!” “You did.”

Post courtesy : Zenactive