Thursday, May 30, 2013



I was sitting in front of my computer thinking of a good idea for an article when one of my students sent me a personal message asking for my advice. He was confused on what step he had to take for his life. His dad wanted him to work on a cruise ship to earn big money.  His mother didn’t want him to go because, according to her, it’s dangerous, and the work is too hard for him. She wanted him to finish his studies. He knew his parents only wanted what they thought was good for him, but he was torn between their decisions.  He wanted me to tell him which one to choose.  All I could say to him was, “What do you want to do with the rest of your life?”


Your parents may think they know what is best for you, but the truth is; only you can say which direction is the right one to take especially when it comes to your career or love life. Sometimes people see your potentials and suggest things that they think would fit you best.  The biggest mistake any person can make is to get into something just because someone told you to.  Be the boss of your own destiny. It’s your life, and you have to be the one calling the shots. I’m not saying that you should ignore all of the suggestions and advice. Listen and analyze them; but never forget to consider what you really want in life.


When teenagers ask me what courses they should take or what career they should pursue, all I have to say is, “What do you really want?”  For those I am close to, I point out their talents and the things that I find that they enjoy doing most.  Then I suggest possible jobs that they can do with that certain talent or skill. This way they get to see what they really want and not what their parents and friends want for them.


Everyone has that one, great dream. We have that one, specific thing that we know we would want to do for the rest of our lives. That dream and that one thing that you love doing so much is your passion. Find it and never leave it because it is your passion that will keep you feeling alive and motivated.  If you find a job that makes you do what you are most passionate about, then you will never feel like you’re working for the rest of your life because you will be doing something that you love.


Every day you should set a goal of things that you need to accomplish. Make it a habit to set goals for every task you do. Having a goal gives you direction and purpose. It gives you a sense of success and joy every time you accomplish something, no matter how small.  You may not become the most successful person or the richest person, but if you find contentment and happiness in doing what you love, then you have achieved your ultimate goal, which is happiness.

post courtesy : sheila /souljah

WEEKLY ZEN STORY : Hindrance / Mirror

WEEKLY ZEN STORY : Hindrance / Mirror 

One day all the employees reached the office and they saw a big advice on the door on which it was written: “Yesterday the person who has been hindering your growth in this company passed away. We invite you to join the funeral in the room that has been prepared in the gym”. In the beginning, they all got sad for the death of one of their colleagues, but after a while they started getting curious to know who was that man who hindered the growth of his colleagues and the company itself.

The excitement in the gym was such that security agents were ordered to control the crowd within the room. The more people reached the coffin, the more the excitement heated up. Everyone thought: “Who is this guy who was hindering my progress? Well, at least he died!” One by one the thrilled employees got closer to the coffin, and when they looked inside it they suddenly became speechless. They stood nearby the coffin, shocked and in silence, as if someone had touched the deepest part of their soul. There was a mirror inside the coffin: everyone who looked inside it could see himself.

There was also a sign next to the mirror that said: “There is only one person who is capable to set limits to your growth: it is YOU.” You are the only person who can revolutionize your life. You are the only person who can influence your happiness, your realization and your success. You are the only person who can help yourself. Your life does not change when your boss changes, when your friends change, when your partner changes, when your company changes. Your life changes when YOU change, when you go beyond your limiting beliefs, when you realize that you are the only one responsible for your life. “The most important relationship you can have is the one you have with yourself” . 

Moral: The world is like a mirror: it gives back to anyone the reflection of the thoughts in which one has strongly believed. The world and your reality are like mirrors lying in a coffin, which show to any individual the death of his divine capability to imagine and create his happiness and his success. It’s the way you face Life that makes the difference.

post courtesy : zendictive 

LIFE MANAGEMENT TOOLS : 7 Things You Need to Stop Doing Every Day

LIFE MANAGEMENT TOOLS : 7 Things You Need to Stop Doing Every Day

My Dear Souls ; 

If you get decent value from making TO-DO lists, you’ll also get significant returns – in productivity, in improved relationships, in financial stability, and in heightened levels of happiness – from adding certain things to a TO-DON’T list.
As you may have guessed, a TO-DON’T list’ is a list of things not to do.  It might seem a bit amusing, but it’s an incredibly useful tool for keeping track of unproductive habits like these: 

1.  Worrying about the wrong people.

The ladies of The Real Housewives of Orange County, they’ll survive without you.  The family members and friends of Duck Dynasty, they won’t notice your absence if you stop watching their show.  Even the private lives of your elected politicians and local public figures mean nothing in the grand scheme of your own life. But your significant other, your friends, your children, your siblings, extended family members, business partners, employees and customers – these are the people who truly matter to you.  Give them your time and attention.  They’re the ones who deserve it. And as you meet new individuals, be polite, but don’t try to be best friends with everyone.  Take things slow and remain focused on your core people – the individuals whose absence would immediately make your life less fulfilling.

2.  Focusing all your attention on future events instead of present moments.

This moment will never happen again.  Look around.  Cherish your time as you’re living it.  Work towards something, but enjoy the journey of getting from here to there.  Experience each step.  Don’t succumb to a vicious cycle of overbearing productivity that forces you to constantly think about every imaginable time and place except right here, right now. It’s often hard to tell the true value of a moment until it becomes a memory.  And someday you will likely discover that the small moments you’re living now are really the big ones worth dreaming about.  So learn to appreciate what you HAVE NOW before time forces you appreciate what you HAD THEN.  

3.  Delaying decisions.

Sometimes it doesn’t take as much strength to do things as it does to decide what to do. Life is filled with difficult decisions.  As you move through life you will come up on many forks in the road where both paths look equally as promising.  The important thing is not which path you choose, but that you do in fact choose a path. Deciding sometimes hurts.  Not knowing which path to take can be painful.  But nothing is more disheartening than never making a decision.  If you never choose a road, you will never know where it leads.  So when you’re faced with two equally good options, don’t be one of the people who choose the third option: to not choose.

4.  Saying “yes” when you really mean “no.”

Stop over-committing.  While saying “yes” can take you down some wonderful roads, there’s also a ton of value in saying “no.”  Your time in life is extremely limited; do you really want to give it away so easily? If you don’t have time to commit to a new project, fulfill a favor, etc., it’s a good idea to just say “no.”  Refusing a new request from friends, family, customers, etc. can be difficult, but rarely is it as stressful as over-committing and leaving no time for yourself.
The ambition to be successful in life is not always the biggest challenge, narrowing the number of commitments to be successful in is.  Even when you have the knowledge and ability to access highly productive states, you get to a point where being simultaneously productive on too many fronts at once causes all activities to slow down, stand still, and sometimes even slide backwards.
Bottom line:  Say no when you know you should.  

5.  Buying stuff you don’t need.

Proper money management is one of the most beneficial skills we can master to create a comfortable, happy future for ourselves, and yet it’s a skill that we are often culturally cut off from understanding.  The consumerist society we live in tries to make us feel that happiness lies in owning things and continuously buying new things, and fails to teach us about the happiness not found in things. When external influences suddenly motivate you to consider a new purchase, ask yourself this:  “Is this thing I’m thinking of purchasing really better than the things I already have?  Do I really need it?  Or am I just being persuaded to be displeased with what I have now?” You’ve heard the saying, “The best things in life are free.”  Believe it.  Spending time with friends, laughing, enjoying the antics of a pet, seeing a child smile, experiencing intimate and heart-felt moments with a significant other – these gifts are precious and free.  Money brings comfort, and there’s nothing wrong with enjoying that comfort.  But it’s important to spend money on the things that matter to you, and let go of spending that doesn’t add value to your life.  Spend on what you need, but don’t forget why you’re buying what you’re buying, or the spending will become a destructive habit.

6.  Gossiping.

Gossip is the evil.  If you want to know something about someone, ask.  Don’t assume; that’s how gossip grows and spreads. If you’ve talked to more than one person about something someone else is doing, it’s time to step forward and actually talk to the person you’ve been talking about.  And if it’s truly ‘not your place’ to talk to this person, it’s likely ‘not your place’ to talk about them either. Ultimately, you should focus on judging less, loving more, and resisting the temptation to gossip about others, or portray them in a poor light.  Be impeccable with your words.  Speak with integrity.  Avoid using your words to gossip about others.  Use the power of your voice to spread truth and love only. 

7.  Filling every waking moment with activity.

Downtime is imperative.  In all walks of life, the highest human performance occurs when there is equilibrium between activity and rest.  This is due to the fact that the human body is designed to labor in short pulses, and requires rest and renewal at regular intervals, both physically and mentally.  In other words, your productive working days should look something like this: activity, short rest, activity, short rest, etc. Make time every day to not be busy.  Have dedicated downtime moments – clear points in the day to reflect, rest and recharge.  Don’t fool yourself; you’re not so busy that you can’t afford a few minutes of sanity. You deserve quiet moments away from the daily hustle, in which no problems are confronted, no solutions are explored, and no demands are being made of your time.  At least twice a day, while you’re awake, withdraw yourself from the sources of stress that refuse to withdraw from you.  Do so for a few minutes and simply be and breathe.

Your turn…
What do you need to stop doing?  What belongs on your TO-DON’T list?  Leave us a comment below and share your thoughts.

Post courtesy : marc and angel 

Wednesday, May 15, 2013

Be Thankful .....!!!!

My dear Souls ;

Did you say Thank you to all ,who are around you !!!

Lets make a list to whom we should be thankful : 

1. GOD 
2. Parents 
3. Family 
4. Friends
5. Job/business 
6. House where you live 
7. Office where you work 
8. Society where you move around
9. The country which houses you and your family 
10. Nature for giving so much to us without demanding anything in return
11. God's creations who makes us happy and fill our hearts with  joy . 

and finally last but not the least - YOU. say thank you to yourself for being a good human being. 

I am sure that you all will follow this and live a happy life . 

GOD Bless you all. 

Much Love, Light, Smiles, Hugs and Blessings !!!

Tuesday, May 14, 2013


My Dear Souls ; 

Good Morning !

Well. What is the free gift to us , for us and by us . 
YES . A simple and humble smile. 

A smile can change the dynamics of the world around you.  Your smile , unknowingly will bring cheers to someone ,known or unknown to you. The biggest treasures of life - love and friendship starts with a smile only and most of the times the ugly war of words can be put to silence by a smile only. 

I have seen people changing their original reactions after I smiled at them. YES it works and works like a wonder . a magic. 

Look , I am smiling at you all. and you  are still waiting . oh come-on . SMILE. 
Remember it changes your face value and life value too. 

Much Love, Light, Hugs and Blessings and Smiles !! 
Swami Prem Vijay 

Sunday, May 5, 2013


My Dear Souls ;

Namaste !!!

Everyday We come across some words in our daily life. some of them just resonate with you and push your attention in the right direction. Some even give you some true wisdom and insight and some are so pithy they stay with you your whole life. and some words take you back to your past and remind you of your mistakes and you make a new learning. 

So in short , why to simply listen and forget . we can change our life and its driving direction with these inspiring words. 

still waiting ..... :)

Much Love, Light , Hugs and Blessings !!!

In the end ...............!